Funny how an article can share Red Pill truths yet still toe the Blue Pill line.
From the article:
"AYI pulled data from its 68 million downloads and 20 million Facebook profiles to see which subscribers are making successful matches. It focused in on the 1 million recommended pairings in a specific population of 35,942 users ages 30 to 49. The surprising finding: a woman was five times more likely to show interest in a man was five years her junior that one who was five years older"
OK, not so surprising but they got my attention here...
"If only the men would catch on. Among the 26,434 men ages 30 to 49, 42% wouldn't even consider a woman if she was older than him."
Not so surprising either for anyone that understands male sexual desire, but lets continue...
"However, if contacted by an older woman, men wouldn't necessarily turn her down. The data shows that a man is only 22% less likely to respond to an older woman than a younger woman if she initiates contact."
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And again, this is nothing new under the sun. Most guys when presented with an "easy" opportunity won't pass it up. But they also don't go out of their way to generate any potential with women outside of their preferred group.
Changing Female Mate Preferences
"AYI analysts suspect that younger women are inundated by requests from older men and while that might once have had some appeal---in a marrying-for-wealth sort of way--- it simply doesn't anymore"
Now we are getting to some Red Pill meat! Our modern society is such that a man's potential to provide resources is no longer the driving force behind female mate selection, and instead they've steered towards other criteria such as "hotness", "attitude", and "confidence". Lets carry on...
"A 2008 published in the journal Psychology of Women Quarterly foind that women who are 10 or more years older than their partner report more satisfaction and relationship commitment compared to women who are the same age or younger than their partner."
Do Older Women With Younger Men Win
And here's where my Blue Pill alarm starts going off. So, despite all the anecdotal evidence to the contrary, this study suggests that women are happier with a younger guy, and not just younger, but a decade or more. (that spelling error was in the article, not added by my terrible spelling...) But wait, it gets better when they attempt to explain why this is:
"\"We don't know for sure, but it may be because when the woman is older, it shifts the traditional heterosexual power dynamic toward greater equality. We know from a lot of research that greater equality tends to make couples happier,\" writes study author Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist in the Department of Psychology at Harvard University in his blog, "the Psychology of Human Sexuality"."
Is This Really Mainstream
And there is the bomb. If this is true, then Athol and MMSL is completely misguided, and he should be contacting all the satisfied customer's of his book/blog to tell them they are doing it all wrong. This single paragraph suggests that the Captain/First Officer model of marriage is doomed to fail. I've spent a fairly good amount of time over at MMSL, and I've seen first and second hand that it works.
So the thinking in the article is that when the woman is older, the partnership is more "equal" because of?... Huh, no answer there. Let's speculate! (because its really fun and informative) If the woman is older by a good margin, it seems that the "power dynamic" is probably one where she essentially wears the pants and runs roughshod over her husband, and he is too naive and inexperienced to know better. If that's the case, I'd love to see stats on how many of these so called happy and equal marriages go the distance. We know divorce is still largely an issue of the less affluent. (divorce rates among college graduates are substantially lower than for the lower SES groups where high school is likely to be the highest level of education achieved) Not to say college grads don't divorce, but it happens in much smaller numbers.
So are these older college educated women marrying young and less educated men? I can't imagine there are too many recent male college graduates chomping at the bit to marry a woman that is on the cusp of reproductive shut down. (although another frightening trend of the college educated is the lack of desire to have children, which is fodder for another post.) And, if these are not college educated men, how likely are they to bail once his older wife reaches the tailing end of her attractiveness curve? And that isn't even taking into consideration that if these men are not credentialed yet their older wives are, how long before those wives get bored with him and start looking for a new "boy toy" to entertain herself? I suppose you could argue that such a woman would have dwindling opportunities to upgrade while her younger husband would be reaching is prime, but that takes us back to the point above: how many of these men will want to take care of an aging wife when he reaches a point where attracting a younger woman is a viable option?
I certainly don't have the answers, and the folks quoted in the article have more letters after their names than I do. So for those that value credentials over common sense I understand and expect you to disregard everything I've written. For those of you left that tend to use common sense (if there is such a thing these days) and their eyes to determine how the world around them works, tell me what you think of this article and it's conclusions. I'm 100% sure given enough time I could produce examples to prove this article correct. I could also find examples of couples that thrive in all sorts of different scenarios and combinations. But over all, does this in any way strike you as how things work? Is this something we can call "mainstream"? I don't think so. I think this is another attempt to sell the feminist dream: that women can have it all.
What says you?